I am continually asked by clients about how I light my pilot. You may be asking, “What pilot?” or “What the heck are you talking about, Jen?” The truth is I love to coach with metaphors! It helps to put the thoughts into perspective and make them part of reality.
What is Your Pilot?
Basically, your pilot is what makes you happy. Your pilot:
- Stirs your thoughts
- Ignites your fire
- Makes you smile
- Gives you a sense of grounding
- Keeps you somewhat balanced
- Gives you a sense of peace and purpose
It’s the last item on the list that is the most important, so I’ll say it again. Your pilot gives you a sense of peace and purpose. I think one of the hardest questions to ask yourself is,
“What is my purpose in this lifetime?”
When we’re asked that question, some of us shut off, get defensive, or feel sad. I totally get it. Even if we think we know our purpose on this planet, it’s always shifting, growing, and transforming.
My purpose for a very long time was raising my children, Elly and Jack. Later, it shifted to focusing on being an empty nester and all the things that brings. At the same time, I’m supporting my clients through their own changes and shifts.
My point is that you don’t have to have an answer to that big question. You don’t have to know what your purpose is. What you have to do is begin to light your own pilot so your purpose unfolds!
Lighting Your Pilot Helps Unfold Your Purpose
Here’s what I want you to do. Imagine your body is a furnace, and the only way to begin to bring heat into your house is to turn that furnace on – or light the pilot. Turning the pilot on or lighting the pilot takes action right? It won’t light on its own. You are the only one who can decide or make a choice to take action on what lights up.
Some of you might say, “I don’t know what lights me up, Jen.” That’s okay. Start with very small steps, and I mean really small. Some of the ways I take small steps to light my pilot are:
- Lighting a candle
- Reading the Post (Yup! That’s my favorite paper.)
- Spending time with family and friends
- Spending time alone
- Educating myself
- Dousing myself with nutrient-dense foods
- Taking hot showers
- Trying new scents
Take a look at that list again. These are all very small steps that I started taking many, many years ago. It took practice and commitment to keep my flame burning, but as I became better able to commit to some of these actions of self-care over time, more opportunities and possibilities presented themselves to me.
For example, one very profound finding I discovered as I kept my pilot lit was the birth of Simple Clean and Whole, LLC, which now has led many other people to different paths. Believe me, this takes time and lots of energy. There are still days when I’m overwhelmed, exhausted, and questioning my own path, but the underlying beauty of questioning yourself is growth!
3 Steps to Start Lighting Your Pilot
With all of that said, I offer these three steps to light your pilot, which you can start right now:
Think about something that makes you happy or something you’ve been wanting to try.
For me, that something has been wanting to learn new yoga breathing techniques because I’ve found that they really give me a new perspective on my body awareness. However, I really never put that into action before. I always had an excuse that kept me stuck in old patterns and habits.
Next, you move from contemplation and take action.
For me, it’s always scary to walk into a new yoga or exercise class. Being a novice makes me feel really vulnerable. I stepped into my first Kundalini yoga class two months ago, and wow, did it light my fire!
Finally, Commit to the action.
For example, I’ve planned to take two to three Kundalini yoga classes each week. This is a time for me. It’s a time to light my flame and expand.
It’s Time to Light Your Own Pilot
Since I’ve been practicing, I met some wonderful people and made connections to like-minded people. Now, I’m able to expand my practice and share some amazing metaphors with my own clients. It’s just one more step in the journey to finding and feeling my purpose.
Now, it’s time for you to think, take action, and commit to that action. I ask you to think about something you have been wanting to take action in to light your own pilot. Nothing is too little or too big to give you the push into action. The truth is that it takes practice and the willingness to put yourself first.
Want some coaching on your journey? If you’re ready to take the next step to light your pilot, let’s work together. Having support truly can help!
“Working with Jen can best be described as a total awakening. Jen places a huge emphasis on the connection between mind, body, and soul, which really resonated with me. Without Jen’s guidance, I would have never realized the extra weight I was carrying around was from not putting myself first. Jen helped me break out of my comfort zone and totally changed my way of thinking.
Working with Jen one-on-one was a true blessing. I learned to shift my consciousness and make healthy decisions both physically and mentally, and I learned a number of new behaviors that I have incorporated into my everyday life. I lost 10 pounds in six weeks with Jen and overall feel lighter both mentally and physically.
Jen, you are AWESOME. Never stop sharing your light with those around you. I cannot thank you enough.”