How to Move Past Your Fear of Being Vulnerable

Do you have a fear of being less than? Do you operate with an all or nothing mentality? The common denominator for most people in these situations is a fear of being vulnerable.

In other words, you’re afraid to make mistakes or show anyone (including yourself) that you’re less than perfect. You’re stuck on one side of the bridge between feeling limited or limitless.

Hanging out on the Limited to Limitless Bridge

The way you do one thing in life is usually how you do most things in your life. If you’re an all or nothing person, you’re either limited or limitless. Fear of being less than prevents us from crossing the bridge from limited to limitless.

For those of us with all or nothing mentalities who live on the limited mindset side of the bridge, once we cross to the limitless side, fear often pulls us back to the limited side once again.

What if we took some time to hang out on that bridge rather than jumping all the way from the extremes of living the limited mindset vs. limitless mindset?

What would it feel like to be uncomfortable on that bridge, somewhere in the middle, where there is no definite?

What would it feel like to be vulnerable?

We all need to become comfortable with vulnerability before we can take a step to move forward.

Pulling up the Shade and Taking off the Vulnerability Mask

When we have a fear of being vulnerable, we often hide behind masks so others can’t see our imperfections.

You can’t make positive transformations until you recognize and remove your mask. However, taking off your mask is something that has to be done slowly. You have to take it off little by little or you’ll end up pulling it right back on again as soon as you feel too uncomfortable.

The key is to hang out in the middle of your limited to limitless bridge where you’ll feel uncomfortable but not so out of place that you need to go back to your mask and your old habits. I coach my clients to use certain exercises so they can embrace vulnerability at the middle of the bridge rather than fearing it.

Imagine you have a remote control for a shade on yourself. Every day, press the up button and lift that shade a little bit. Track the incidents when you feel vulnerable. When you feel weighted down by emotions, it’s ok, take a breath….slowly lift up the shade, eventually you will find your place or shall I say balance. Most important is to recognize that this is a practice, just like eating well.  You will begin to feel more truthful. It’s a tough job to wear a mask everyday.  Imagine what it would be like to walk your talk….your real talk?  The negative physical effects that you were experiencing from your fear of being vulnerable will begin to improve.

Making a SHIFT

We all struggle with a fear of being vulnerable, but if that fear is doing harm to you emotionally or physically, then you need to make a shift so you can find you. Don’t let distractions get in the way and don’t allow your all or nothing way of thinking to become a label that defines you to yourself or to others.

You can make the SHIFT that you need to so you can get unstuck on the limited to limitless bridge and begin to move forward and embrace the balanced and happy life that you deserve!

Are you ready to make a SHIFT? SHIFT 21 is a 3-week transformational food and lifestyle program that will help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Follow the link to learn more!

Can You Really Cleanse & EAT Fat Too….?

Could there be a healthy fat?

Oh yes there can…

It’s called Ghee….

It looks like butter, it’s made with butter, it kind of smells like butter, so how healthy can ghee really be?

Ghee traditionally used in Indian cooking and is commonly referred as clarified or drawn butter. One tablespoon of ghee is equal to 4 tablespoons of butter.

“Ghee is made from a natural source which is butter, and because of the way it’s prepared, the lactose and milk protein content is so minimal…making it better tolerated by those with dairy sensitivities”… -Ari Patel

I absolutely LOVE ghee’s benefits…

  • Ghee possesses butyric acid, which actually decrease inflammation in parts of the body, particularly your gut and aids in nutrient absorption
  • High in healthy Omega 3 oil which can help decrease your levels of unhealthy cholesterol.
  • Ghee is easily digestible for this with dairy intolerance concerns…what more can I say!

I have been experimenting with ghee for the last year, and have found many recipes that include its deliciousness!!! My favorite to put a teaspoon in my morning oatmeal….OMG!!!!

I have included many recipes with Ghee in my Deep Dive Winter Cleanse. Ghee is the perfect accessory for that comfort and warmth we all crave in the winter season….kind of like a warm cozy blanket! A little healthy fat always curbs my sugar cravings!

You can find grass-fed ghee at your local food store, and to boot it does not have to be refrigerated, since there is no dairy, and essentially is a healthy fat.

Please remember Ghee is an addition to a Simple Clean and Whole healthy lifestyle since it is a fat…everything in balance & moderation!!!

Delicious Warming Oatmeal with Ghee
 
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Ingredients
  • 1 tablespoon ghee
  • 2-3 cups of water
  • 1 pinch of sea salt
  • ¼ cup raisins
  • ⅔ cup rolled oats
  • 1 tsp cardamom
  • pinch of cinnamon
  • pinch of nutmeg
Instructions
  1. In a medium saucepan, melt the ghee.
  2. Add the oats, cardamom, cinnamon, nutmeg, and salt.
  3. Allow the ghee to coat the oats and spices.
  4. Add your water & bring to a boil, reduce heat to med-low.
  5. Add raisins.
  6. Cover and let cook until desired texture.
  7. Sprinkle with sunflower seeds
Notes
adapted from SimpleVeda.com

Come experience cooking with ghee in a safe & effective way on the Simple Clean and Whole Winter Deep Dive Cleanse! The Pre-Cleanse starts this Sunday, February 1st 2015.

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